From self-help to the Refocusing Method
Growing up I wasn’t the happiest. Home life and school could feel overwhelming and stressful.
As I got older I became interested in self-help partly because I wanted to feel better, and partly because I found it an interesting subject. As an adult I’ve spent many years immersed in this world.
“I came to understand how our internal narratives shape our lives.”
Discovering ideas about creating our reality
While learning all I could about self-help, I had a nagging feeling I was missing a key piece of information.
Then one day I was introduced to the idea that we live in an organised and reflective universe – meaning our inner state creates our external reality. This happens – consciously or unconsciously – through our thoughts, feelings and beliefs, also known as frequency and vibration.
This resonated deeply and I dived into the idea, reading everything I could about it. When I came up for air, it was clear that I’d found the information I’d been missing.
All that was left was to put what I’d learned into practice. And therein lay the rub.
“It was one thing to understand the ideas intellectually. Living it consistently was another matter. ”
In the more than 20 years since I learned how we consciously shape our lives, bridging this gap between knowing we create our lives and actually embodying it has been my biggest passion.
And from that passion and practice emerged my Refocusing Method, which you can read more about.
As a qualified transformational coach, I'm developing the Refocusing Method to form the basis of future 1-1 coaching and small group programmes focused on helping people close the gap between what they know and how they live.
As a coach my ability to spot where people were unclear or stuck in their thinking became fine tuned. And it’s through this lens of clarity that I help practitioners with their websites through Website Clarity Reviews.
Website messaging and clarity work
Like many, I’m a multi-passionate person.
I spent over 20 years as a website editor and UX (user experience) designer. I now use those skills to help practitioners and small businesses with their website messaging and structure so they appeal to their ideal customers.
Writing
Alongside my deep interest in how we consciously create our reality and my website clarity work, I have a big love of writing both fiction and nonfiction.
I’ve always enjoyed reading, but my love of writing didn’t surface until my late 20s. It was almost as though I woke up one morning with something inside me impatient to be expressed. When I picked up a pen and started writing, I didn’t want to stop.
I self-published my first novel The Pope Wears a Kippah in 2014. I’m currently working on a nonfiction book.
You can visit my Books page to find out more and see what I’m currently working on.
Finding hope and community in 2026
Those are all the ‘meaty’ things about me – how we create our reality, my work with brilliant practitioners and my writing.
But something else has my attention – the world in 2026. It feels like it’s… up to something.
It feels chaotic. But beneath that I see hope and optimism.
One of the reasons I love what I do is because I know when we feel empowered to create our reality, when we feel good, it ripples out beyond us, to our families, friends and neighbourhoods.
“When the right clients find us and we get our work out into the world, we make a positive difference.”
I’m noticing people building community and connection, something I’m missing, and I think others are too. I’m reading about people coming together and organising for a better world. And I’m here for it.
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If any of this resonates, I'd love to stay in touch. My newsletter, Refocusing Reflections, is where I share insights into how we consciously create our reality – practical thoughts on closing the gap between knowing and living, and occasional writing updates.